The child is always in harmony with his mother and especially the mother must be in harmony with its creature.
is a big mistake to declare that the child grows, is off, or to be existentially detached from the mother. How great would be a mutilation upon himself and his own creature: if the mother comes off by his son, because when the woman becomes a mother eternally expanding the size of the psycho-physical self, you will not be individual or single person. In her is what happened in the relationship-Madonna Jesus Christ, flesh and even dying, he continued to be the Son of God
It happened that the Mother of Jesus, because of her motherhood made to him by the Angel of the Annunciation Gabriel, has become eternally "Mater Dei", proving that even when it dies on the cross, when in the tomb and ascended into heaven where, and the incarnate Christ has continued to be in harmony with God the Father and God the Holy Spirit.
Therefore the loss, or absence, of the mother is a serious mutilation of the mother-child a. In fact, mother and son have started life (as her mother, him as a child), have grown physically, psychologically and spiritually whole.
The father has never begun to live his life by tying the life of the child and never grew along with his son, that is: there has never been a symbiotic relationship between father and child.
There is no parent-child symbiosis, although there is always the son of masculinity even in the child, as There is also the child of femininity.
Therefore proper growth and honest children should be through the connate with the mother figure, and the ideal would be that the mother was a good mother because her child is a good and beautiful creature, because the natural tendency of the child is the imitation of the maternal model. Unfortunately there are some bad mother figures, which alter the growth of its figli.Come there are good fathers, wanting so much to their children: they are fairly envious of her mother, who was able to create life with an interest in them can not .
If the mother was missing: his young orphan creature suffers a serious lack of existence, which can only partly be offset by the same father.
is also true to say that "children are not of those who made them, but those who are growing, but it is always a compensatory relationship, that does not fill all the existential void caused by the loss of his mother remains a significant part of the emotional gap, as is confirmed by the emotional problems that have always been those who have become motherless at a young age. Nothing and no one can replace or compensate for the emotional and existential fullness of a mother.
Therefore, a good foster mother must be aware that it will always be a bit different and less than the mother true of the creature that was adopted.
of John Basso, PicoLog psychotherapist
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